Self-realization comes to us in different stages of life.

The life-events leading ‘us’ to realize about us and ‘about us in life’ are randomly stacked up. They may or may not lead us to generalize about what we come to realize (something that is open to be changed later) but there cannot be a random selection about such events because we never know if it is the moment unless it comes into happening or unless it is passé; because we never knew if we were to come across a particular moment at a particular time having some self-realization lessons.

There is no hierarchy of such moments. There cannot be one.

Life is sum-total of the moments lived and every moment has its own vitality of individualized proportions when you live with ‘you’ only’, when you communicate with ‘you’ only. The self-realization moments form an important measurement of such individualized moments.

And there is no defined pattern of ‘how and when’ of such moments. When we don’t know the next moment of life, how can we define the moment next-to-the-next? Yet, we plan. That is about being human. But the reality remains – life moves in random, unplanned ways, from this moment to the next one. And that applies to the ‘self-realization’ moments as well.

Such moments may come to us in odd moments. Such moments may come to us in routine moments. Such self-realization moments may come to us in ignored moments.

Such moments may knock at the conscious in our merrier moments.

Such moments may stare at us in the moments of crisis and in the pal of gloom.

Such moments may pinch us even if in a state of thoughtlessness.

Self-realization can call us at any hour. Yes, there are heightened individualized moments when we tend to cut off; when we move deep inward; when we feel betrayed, by us or by others; when we find us in some difficult situation and the way-out looks nowhere in sight, when the life gives us the clear pointers on our thought-process to ‘introspect and retrospect’ to make sense of ‘all that is happening’, to make sense of ‘us’ in all that is happening. It is up to us whether we listen to the call.

In our youth, we look at such self-realization moments differently, many times not even realizing about them.

As we grow up and start making sense of ‘who we are’ and ‘what life is’, our perspective to the ‘moments of self-realization’ takes a different approach. This is the most fruitful and so the most volatile phase of life when we experiment the most with our identity and so about our ‘realization of life’ and ‘us in that life’.

When we are more or less settled-down, we tend to be less experimental and there come moments when we conveniently choose to ignore the writing on the wall in order to sail along with the flow of life.

When we approach the final days, the days to say the final goodbye, the time to witness the final farewell, we do come across the self-realization moments that sum up the whole life telling us what we collected, what we did, what we had to do and what we could not do. We feel most positively about such moments in this phase of life because we look at them in the light of the acquired wisdom of the countless moments (defining and redefining our existences) sifted and assorted mercilessly by time.

©/IPR: Santosh Chaubey –



A lonely journey, a standalone moment, a simple incident, can sometime tell you what you were always looking to know.

Life is just not about existing. It goes beyond the existentialism. It calls for building on your own credentials. It calls for fighting and fighting to win.

It calls for creating your own set of rules where you don’t lose questions and where you don’t act impulsively for answers.

Answers, sometimes, they are never there; sometimes, they cannot be.

Answers, sometimes, they take time to get into your stream, to make it to your psyche.

Answers, sometimes, they are there only, but you cannot see.

In lonely moments, when you are just with your ‘self’, sometimes, you come to realise how cruel you were to torture your soul for the answers that didn’t need any questioning at the very outset.

Or, they can tell you it was better to reconcile and co-exist with a question.

Life throws problems to test your mettle and to tell you the intent of the presence of people in your sphere of life.

When you make a life socially, you are many ‘persons’, interacting with the ‘people’ who form your social circle that includes your family, too.

The answers that you seek, originate from your own existence as well as from the existence of these very ‘people’ in your sphere of life.

You might not get all the answers but you must seek the root of the questioning that originates the propositions.

You must strive for answers that your own ‘self’ creates, for they make the principal ingredients of your identity.

You must always be judicious while seeking answers that the other ‘people’ (except your family members) in your sphere of life create for you because many are not going to hold any relevance except dragging you down.

You come to realise the value of relevance of such questions in the lonely moments when you can question your ‘self’ seeking the absence of the answers and a simple moment of afterthought tells you the root of the questioning itself is already uprooted.

In the standalone moments of self-reckoning you come to know the questions were to be seen as the passing moments on your existential scale and you needed to be free of impulses to be in line with the intent of the answers.

©/IPR: Santosh Chaubey –